What Is the “Family Alchemy” Package?

Веретенников Сергей · Mar 1, 2021

COURSE
Family Alchemy

A unique course that quickly provides an understanding of why relationships do not work out, what the difficulties are, and how to resolve them.

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What this course reveals:

Relationships: husband and wife
Relationships: parents and children
Relationships: children and parents
Why don't I have a family yet?
Why don't I have children yet?
Why don't I have a relationship at all?
Why do we have frequent conflicts?
The period before divorce (can everything still be saved or not)?
The period before marriage (we have experience living together, but I cannot decide to enter into a legally recognized relationship)
Dissatisfaction with the relationship
Determining whether a partner is suitable or not
Who is right in the family, and who is in charge?

Who is this course for?

Relationships concern everyone, essentially. Therefore, this course is for everyone.
Above all, this course is for relationships within the family, as well as for those who are already preparing for family life.
But it is also for those who are unable to make anything work.

What can you expect from the course?

The course consists of taking a unique author-created test, understanding it in detail, and analyzing it. This provides an understanding of your individual situation. You will understand why negative phenomena that you do not understand occur in your situation and how to deal with them properly from now on.
The course provides the quintessence of psychological knowledge, making it easy and clear to apply. Everything is written in simple, even everyday language.
At the end of the course, if you still have questions or have any important questions about your situation, you can ask me personally (if you wish).

Course subject:

Conflicts: husband and wife, parents and children, relationships within a couple.
Not understanding what is happening—you need to sort it out and understand.
The period before divorce (whether everything can still be saved or not).
The period before marriage (there is experience of living together, but you need to decide whether to enter into a legal relationship).
Dissatisfaction with the relationship.
Determining whether your partner is suitable for you or not.
And much more related to relationships.

Who conducts the course, who is the Course Author?

Sergey Veretennikov is a certified Ayurvedic and transpersonal psychologist. He is the author of the Your Yoga website and numerous original self-development practices. He has extensive, many years of experience working with people who lead a spiritual, esoteric lifestyle.
He is the author of the most popular "Vedic Family" section on the entire internet—HERE.
More about me—HERE.

Decided to improve your relationship? Then go ahead:

ПЕРЕЙТИ
I have combined several psychotherapy methods, including the Ayurvedic method (Ayurvedic psychology). In short, I use two methods: the modern Western one and the ancient Eastern one.
I look for the root of the problem and work with it. I do not "dig into" consequences such as: "She insulted me, and he didn't wash the dishes..." We need to understand that consequences stem from a cause. There is always one cause, but many consequences. She may stop insulting him, and he may start washing the dishes—but after some time, the conflict will arise again, expressed through other consequences. It will seem like a different conflict that needs to be resolved using different methods... But that is not so. These conflicts will never be resolved unless the cause is resolved.

As a certified Ayurveda specialist, I view any family as a complex organism (operating according to strictly defined laws) that has entered a state of imbalance. A "sick" family or person requires a similar approach—finding the cause of the imbalance. In a person, this may manifest as a cough, a runny nose, skin rashes, or in any other way. But the cause of all this is some kind ofan imbalance in the body. Everything needs to be brought into harmony, and the causes will disappear. The illness lies deep inside, most often in the psyche, while the symptoms are not the illness itself but merely manifestations (of course, most often painful ones, so that attention is paid to them) pointing to the illness. And there is no point in pouring some medicine into the nose to stop a runny nose or cough. It is exactly the same with a family: I see and identify the symptoms in order to find the illness, which consists of disharmony. And I try to bring everything back into harmony. Then the symptoms disappear. It is all very simple.

I have my own system for diagnosing imbalances in families and relationships. This system is based on knowledge of modern Western psychology and ancient Eastern (Ayurvedic) psychology.

During the course, you will take a test developed and created by me personally.
You will receive the test results, and I will teach you how to understand them. This will be what I call the formula for family happiness. I will teach you how to diagnose using this test, and you will know why conflicts, tension, alienation, or even aggression occur in your family. You will simply be able to see and understand it. Then you can continue balancing the relationships in your family on your own, knowing the cause of the problem rather than reacting tomultiple consequences, becoming entangled in them. In other words, you may no longer need a psychologist, since you will know what to do yourself.

No psychologist before me had done this. Because this is my personal system, incorporating everything best for conducting a high-quality diagnosis of the causes of disharmony in the family.

How is the course structured?

You pay for the "Family Alchemy" package — HERE.
You take the course, study the material and supplementary materials, and complete the test.
You can take the course together with your partner. It is free for your partner. You can also take it alone.

You can repeat the course in the future. If problems arise after some time, you purchase the "Family Alchemy" package again, ask me your questions, continue studying the course, and take the test again.

What should not be done?

The course is provided for half a month. I give you the opportunity to ask your most important questions about relationships—the ones that are most important to you right now. Of course, during this time you could try to ask me a million questions, hoping to “get” the maximum out of your payment. You should not do that.
I strictly regulate my time and the amount of work. If I say to ask only the most important questions, then ask only those. That means 2–3 questions.

No one sees your topics except me and you. The family consultations section is completely hidden from everyone (private). You are the only one who sees new messages (in the news) in the topics.

ПЕРЕЙТИ

You can ask me questions in audio or video format.
Simply record it wherever convenient and provide a link to the file.
This works for family alchemy. It works for consultations at the Ashram.
The easiest way is to record your question on a smartphone and upload it to Google Drive: Google Drive: Sign-in
Or Yandex Disk: Yandex
You can also use YouTube (with access restricted to those who have the link).
Describe your problem in an audio or video recording.
Then, after the consultation, you can delete these files.

Веретенников Сергей · Mar 1, 2021

Веретенников Сергей · Mar 14, 2021

What will you ultimately gain from my course?

I strive to give you as much as possible in a short time.
As a rule, one course is enough to reconsider family conflicts, see their hidden meaning, and break free from the cycle of “she answered me like that, he did this to me...” And even worse: “he thought this about me, she does this because she thinks that...” Gradually, some insignificant conflict or misunderstanding takes center stage, and the spouses create their own world, where they “~~know~~” what their partner is thinking and why they act that way... In other words, they begin living in their own hallucination, an imaginary reality where they assign different roles to the characters in their world, where they “know” even what everyone is thinking...
Only an external force, in the form of a psychologist, can bring a couple out of this one-sided entrapment in an imagined world where he is always right and she is to blame for everything (or vice versa).

Based on Ayurvedic knowledge and ancient Vedic philosophy, I developed a system through which, after a consultation, a married couple can see their current state, where they are heading, and their potential. The system is unique because it has also been adapted to the format of Western psychology, which is more understandable to modern people.

I am confident that the understanding you gain from my course will significantly or completely improve your relationships, whether between husband and wife or between parent and child.

Веретенников Сергей · Mar 22, 2021

After you leave a session with a conventional psychologist, you often do not feel that you have understood the cause of your family’s “illness,” or gained any complete picture of where—and in what—you actually live. If you consult reference books and try to find out about it THERE, you are given something vague describing what a family is.

Many married people still do not know what this is—what a “family” is. There is no definition. And if you do not know where you are, how can you even talk about “how to make it better!?” You can’t.
Conventional psychologists can help you sort out a specific situation. For example, the first conflict occurs. You go to a psychologist and work through it.
You feel somewhat better. But then it happens again. There is no time to see a psychologist. The conflict seems to subside, get brushed aside, and be forgotten over time... Then there is another conflict. And another.
Back to the psychologist... By then, there is already a mountain of issues to sort through. There is no time. And then questions like “does he love me?” and “is she using me?” appear as well...
And everything falls apart.
Even when the couple divorces, the question remains in your head: “what was that, anyway?” Once again, we turn to the “all-powerful” reference book, and once again find nothing. Because it simply contains no definition of the word “family.”
So what was it, or what is it now? It is unclear.
You cannot build a house out of who-knows-what. You will end up with who-knows-what.

In my course, you receive a clear picture of what is happening in your “family” or relationship. What it is like. Why conflicts occur. In other words, the patient’s “illness.” And I provide the “medicine”—very simple actions based entirely on understanding what is happening.
These are simple, step-by-step recommendations. Forgot them? Read them again. These steps are always in front of you. This is the medicine.

Веретенников Сергей · Mar 26, 2021

According to EMISS data, 73% of marriages in Russia ended in 2020.
It is impossible to calculate how many unregistered marriages, so-called “cohabitations,” ended. Therefore, this percentage is higher.
However, the percentage among young couples married for up to three years is even higher. It is approximately 90%.
Approximately the same divorce rate persists throughout the world.

However, everything can be changed!
I view any family as a human organism—equally wise and strong. All that is required to heal both a family and a wise human organism is proper correction. Then the “illness” goes away. But illnesses do not exist; there is only disharmony. Any illness is merely a symptom indicating that disharmony has arisen.
But many people focus on the problem or illness and do not want to see the causes that lead to disharmony.
Therefore, I resolve the problem at the level where the disharmony arose. And the family heals.
Your happiness is in your hands.

Веретенников Сергей · Apr 20, 2021

Most often in troubled countries, people choose to get divorced rather than see a psychologist. At the same time, they lose a huge amount of money in the divorce. And to hell with the money—there is also their health, since it is an extremely traumatic process.
And it would be worthwhile if there were any point to it. Statistics tell us that if a couple breaks up after, say, 10 years of living together, the next marriage lasts even less time, and if they divorce again, the third marriage will be even shorter.
These statistics are inexorable.
Why is this?
Because people think in stereotypes: I will change the external circumstances if they do not suit me. Bad husband—I’ll replace my husband. Wife is a bitch—I’ll replace my wife...
In the second marriage, they grab the bull by the horns. And in the third, they go straight into battle.
And so the fragile marriage collapses instantly. The union of two loving people cannot be built this way. Therefore, if one sees one’s partner as something that should live the way we want, then the marriage cannot take place in principle. Because marriage is, from the outset, an agreement. And if you do not know how to negotiate, then you do not know how to live in marriage. In this case, it is pointless to change partners in search of your “elusive love”.

To be loved, you must demonstrate the qualities of someone capable of sacrifice. The pinnacle of love that we observe in the world is love for Jesus. Millions of people can tell you with certainty that they love Jesus. He sacrificed his life, his suffering, his well-being, and his comfort for us. He gave everything, becoming a sacrifice in our name...
And we love him.
We love our parents for the same reason.
But the time comes to enter into a marital relationship. A husband or wife appears. And one of the partners is not going to sacrifice anything. They want everyone around them to be Jesuses. Then they will love them all.
But loving this way is too easy. These are overly parent-child relationships.
Marital partners are not parents to each other. Therefore, by choosing to love another person because they selflessly do something for you, you are killing your marriage.
Love your partner at least because life with them is at least a little easier for you than life alone.
Originally, the meaning of a relationship between a woman and a man was roughly this: it is easier to survive together. And both valued that.
Nothing has changed. Subconsciously, we understand this even now.
But people have been spoiled by the benefits of civilization. Many have become so mired in pleasures that they no longer know what they want; everything has become so saturated.
That is why there are so many suicides. They are tired of everything. Or people have sunk so deeply into self-pity that they do not realize that people once lived in much more difficult conditions and were happy nonetheless!

We have stopped appreciating what we have. We always want something more. More and more. At the same time, we lose the most important thing—something very simple, small, and modest... That which glows in all our hearts. You may call IT whatever you like. Conscience, for example.

Веретенников Сергей · May 10, 2021

What happens after the end of the fairy tale?

There is an answer:
Your Yoga. How to Create Happy Family Relationships

Веретенников Сергей · May 23, 2021

Most people prefer to drink alcohol, inject and smoke drugs, or finally take antidepressants... rather than see a psychologist, saying, “Well, it’s expensive”

Yet they spend almost all their money on alcohol, drugs, pills...
And illnesses caused by nervous tension are just around the corner...
And they account for 90%.
Scientists have proven that 90% of illnesses are caused by nerves.

By avoiding psychologists, people end up paying much more. And not only for pills, operations, and so on, but also for the right to live happily.

Веретенников Сергей · May 26, 2021

Throughout the ages, people have dealt with marriage through a simple principle: the weak obeys the strong. Even now, in the 21st century, when people fly to the Moon and explore Mars..., I am astonished to see reports about someone stabbing his wife or sister because she showed her face on Instagram...
Barbaric!
If you have decided to live the old-fashioned way, then stay in your villages—why aren’t you staying there? Wear homespun shirts, count your chickens, milk cows... No. They want to live in the 21st century, enjoying all the benefits of civilization, while women live as they did in the 15th century...

Make up your minds at last: where are you—in the 15th century or the 21st?

Be adults. Admit that strength has long ceased to decide anything. Reason decides everything. But some people simply have none.
Everyone owes someone something. They just do, that’s all. Why delve into feelings, why look for compromises... Cut someone’s throat and that’s it. So that others will be afraid too.

All this must disappear. Psychology makes people human. No one owes anyone anything. A woman is just as strong as a man, but in her own way.
Stop living by medieval ideas. Either live by them completely—which you cannot—or start embracing the new way, where there is no “I want it this way” or “you owe me.” Instead, there is “we are all human beings.” Equal human beings.

Веретенников Сергей · Jun 10, 2021

In psychology, it is considered that a woman’s main duty is to be beautiful.
A man’s main duties are to be a protector and a provider.

And from this alone, you can understand how different these two beings are. Even their duties are not merely dissimilar—they come from completely different informational layers and different spheres.

It is just like comparing the concepts of “humidity” and “speed.”

That is why we observe that approximately 80% of couples divorce during the first year of their relationship. Humidity and speed cannot merely struggle to reach an agreement; they cannot agree in principle.

Beauty and strength are profoundly different concepts.

But it is important to understand one thing here: they can complement each other. Like the earth and a flower.

Neither can live without the other.

This factor—the importance in one’s life of having beauty or strength as a complement—makes the concept of marriage understandable.

If you are a man, you need beauty beside you. And if you are a woman, strength.

Very often, people do not know this. They invent a sea of various duties for men and women, overlooking the main ones I have just mentioned.

And if they do not see the essence, they see nothing.

Веретенников Сергей · Jun 11, 2021

What Builds Love in a Relationship?

No, let me start from the very beginning. And the beginning for us is a romantic relationship. At the very beginning. Some people call it love. Which is fundamentally wrong.

SCIENTIFIC DATA:

The World Health Organization (WHO) officially included infatuation in its list of mental disorders. The WHO classified infatuation as a mental disorder under “Disorders of habits and impulses” and assigned it the international disease code F 63.9.
Infatuation is a mental disorder of the paranoid type. Infatuation is characterized by similarities to obsessive-compulsive syndrome and belongs to the group of mental disorders, alongside alcoholism, gambling addiction, substance abuse, and kleptomania.

Do you understand?

Infatuation is not love. A person literally becomes irrational, full of illusions, seeing the world not as it really is—something characteristic of drug addicts...

And when this “illness” passes, it is similar to a hangover. It occurs during the first year of marriage—precisely when, statistically, most divorces happen.

People simply do not want to move forward. They thought they had found love... But in the end, they got only a hangover. When everything becomes irritating.

Why don’t they move forward? Why do they decide to “get another shot” of infatuation, find another partner, and lose themselves again for six months?

And spend their entire lives that way.

Why?

Because they do not know what love is. They think infatuation is love. That intoxication, the fog in your head... When you tell them that love is work, effort, and sacrifice... They reply, “Ugh, what do you know about love...”

In the end, we get an old lonely spinster with cats in her apartment or an alcoholic whom nobody needs—people who were looking for something resembling “love” and did not find it.

So, what builds love in a relationship?

The time you spend together. It gradually decreases in marriage, and sometimes disappears altogether. Without noticing, you become strangers to each other.

If you want to have love in your family, give your family TIME.

Веретенников Сергей · Aug 4, 2021

Can another person be changed?

The answer is obvious. NO.

But not for married couples. When in a marital relationship, practically all spouses (husbands/wives) think, “I will change this person.”

And all the arguments happen solely because of this.

You want to change the person.

But they do not want to change.

What should you do?

When you want to change another person, you make them understand that you need a different person.

How does that feel for them? Just think about it and try to feel it yourself.

It is as if you are telling them, “I would be better off with Vasya or Masha.”

That is why you hear the reply, “Then go to that Vasya...”

You cannot change another person. It is important to understand this. You married this particular person. This is what they are like.

Moreover, you cannot even say that you want to make them better!

You want to make them better for YOURSELF. For your mother, for the children...

But that does not mean they will be better overall.

In essence, you are being selfish.

Now grasp the main point—your spouse wants to do the same thing to you.

So where can you find your family happiness in all this?

Two people who want to remake each other in their own image.

Веретенников Сергей · Aug 25, 2021

Why does a woman get married?

My mother has driven me crazy—I want freedom.
My friend got married. Am I worse?
That is what people do. I am already 20, it is time...
The biological clock is ticking... Yes, tick-tock.
I need children. To cuddle these little bundles of my flesh...
But am I really a goddess? This man obeys me; I feel power over him...

And so it turns out that a woman deceives her husband at the very beginning, while a man does so all his life.

Who is the husband in the family? Come on, tell me, who is he?
A man who does not care. Correct.

You lassoed him and caught him in your nets. Everything happened as you wanted.
And then?
Then the man feels that something is wrong.
Doubts gnaw at him.
It seems to be like everyone else, but something is wrong.
There is some lack of sincerity. And a man is very sensitive to sincerity.
“Does she love me?”—that is the question.
Maybe she is using me?

And he is right—she is using him. And the man is using her.
Everyone needs something from the other.
That is what attraction and union are based on.

Each person needs something from the other.

Веретенников Сергей · Aug 27, 2021

Why do men get married?

Status. I seem more respectable with a wife.
It's expected. Everyone does it. Tradition.
Duty. "I'm not some kind of bastard who sleeps with her and dumps her—that's not me..."
Benefits. "What, am I stupid? A housekeeper, cook, maid, affectionate partner, unlimited sex..."
Hormones. "I can't live without her..."
Experience. "What is this?.."
Loneliness. "God, nobody loves me!.."
Peace and quiet. "I've been running around too much, my heart isn't what it used to be, it's time to settle down..."
To show off. "Just look who's by my side!.."
Help. "Who will bring me a glass of water?"...

In other words, men have no particular reasons to get married. Most often, he needs not a family but some kind of benefit, security, and the desire to show off in front of other members of his sex.

Yes, he was a wild animal, and he remains one.

Only when a man's intellect kicks in can you talk to him about such long-term voluntary restrictions.

For a man, marriage is a cage. Only when you convince him that it isn't a cage but, for example, a warm little nest where loving children jump around everywhere and break everything, where you need to work more because "you're my hero," where "now there's only us"—and we want a fur coat, a car, an apartment, and another child—"yes, I said a child..."

If you manage to impose all these ideas on a man, he will truly start to think that he needs all of this.

Веретенников Сергей · Sep 13, 2021

In this post, I would like to say more about the esoteric side of problems in the family.

No psychologist will tell you this.

What kind of problems are these?

Yes, they may be magical influences. People literally cast spells. And quite often.

And the couple doesn't understand why they keep arguing.

Who can cast spells?

For example, the mother-in-law. Her disobedient daughter married someone other than the man her mother wanted. Mother had other plans. Mother is grieving. In her grief, she goes to some sorcerer or witch... And you can imagine what "good" things they will do there.

A neighbor. Things aren't going well in her family. Envy. "Let me cast a spell so they don't enjoy themselves too much..."

The husband's mother. Her daughter-in-law is disobedient. She is reforming my little boy. "She does everything in defiance..." And there is a familiar witch who knows how to solve this problem...

In general, you understand that such influences exist.

And they do. Even if nobody did anything (this word is usually used when someone has performed some kind of magical act), then the Ancestral Line may also get involved—someone may have cursed it at some point, or cast a curse upon the family line...

In short, those who are familiar with the subject know all about this.

If you are waiting for my "authoritative" opinion, I can tell you for certain that this exists.

People are brought together magically and separated magically.

People are "worked with" like puppets.

Naturally, when people come to me for family consultations, I try to remove and neutralize all this to some extent.

Веретенников Сергей · Nov 6, 2021

Your Yoga. A man is tough on the outside but soft on the inside

There may be one point here. If you have not used this Knowledge for a long time, the right kind of relationship will not develop immediately. It takes time.

Веретенников Сергей · Nov 14, 2021

We are so different; we are not right for each other...

A very common phrase among those on the verge of divorce.

Believe me, couples in which the partners are very similar get divorced no less often. In fact, men and women are not merely different; they are two entirely different universal beings. I wrote about this on the website—here.

When an astrological Jyotish horoscope is drawn up for a married couple, what matters most is not whether they are similar or alike, but how well they fit together.

Yes, the classic example with gears.

Sometimes it is literally better when one person knows how to earn money and the other does not know how at all. But the other may be a good cook, while the first is completely clueless in that area...

The couple does not have to ARGUE over petty things. “Why didn’t you add cardamom to the potatoes?...” He does not even know what cardamom is. But he knows how to make a million a month. So she will never tell him how to calculate sales conversion.

“We are so different”—that is not what destroys a family. It is more likely an excuse for those who have simply decided to get divorced: giving up on working on the relationship.

You can be completely different in every way. And that will only make you stronger.

Now, consider this. Two scientists form a married couple. Biologists. They are so alike. They work together for a year on some discovery. And they make it. They receive an award...
And it seems that everything is great, everything is wonderful...
But not for the family. It is good for science, but not for these two people. They are destroying their personal happiness.
And for no reason.
It would be much better if he were the scientist and she cooked his lunch

Because such a marriage can last a lifetime. A marriage between two scientists does not last long. Because, essentially, it is not even a marriage but an alliance between two friends. Now they are friends, and a year later they are rivals.

Веретенников Сергей · Dec 8, 2021

Awareness

The more a person comes to know and understand themselves, the less they argue with others.
Believe me—greater awareness in relationships is the key to happiness not only in the family, but in life as a whole, wherever you are.
Yes, of course, there are certain fundamental differences that can make a husband and wife so incompatible that divorce may be the only solution.
But believe me, in the overwhelming majority of cases, people do not divorce because of that! They divorce because “the shoes weren’t lined up or the shampoo cap wasn’t screwed on”...

When you understand why little things infuriate you, you stop tormenting the other person—the one you call either your husband or your wife.

A family is not something created for you or tailored to you, where you can comfortably and happily move toward old age. A family is a place where you understand more deeply that nobody owes you anything, while you can do things for others selflessly—and enjoy this NEW level of yourself.

Веретенников Сергей · Dec 14, 2021

Why Do Men Cheat?

Usually, to realize that there is definitely no one better than his wife... Just kidding.
But not entirely.
Of course, when men cheat, they do not think that way. They only think that way in the end.

In other words, their “adventures” often end with the conclusion, “My wife is better.”

You can see for yourself that this is a mistake. Men make a mistake. And women often forgive them if they understand it exactly this way: I am the best woman for this man.

Why Do Women Cheat?

Most often, it is revenge against their husband. It is proof to themselves that they “deserve better”...

This too most often ends in regret, because sex and temporary romance at their peak are not yet the everyday reality of family life, and who knows what this “Don Juan” will turn out to be in a couple of years...
More often than not, he turns out to be someone even worse than the husband she already has.

Why are men less likely to forgive such mistakes by their wives?

It is simple psychology. A man treats everything as an owner. This was programmed into our genes thousands of years ago. This is my horse, this is my house, this is my sword, this is my chest, this is my wife.
That is the list he has carried in his mind since ancient times.

A horse may start limping, a sword may break, a hut may burn down... In other words, anything can break.
So when a wife cheats, it means the wife has broken.
And repairing THAT is already difficult, if it is possible at all.

The man simply takes another horse, another sword, another wife. This is rooted in history.

Веретенников Сергей · Dec 30, 2021

What mistake usually occurs when a married couple, or one partner, comes to a psychologist or independently turns to psychological knowledge?

I can state this as an axiom. Most people come with one goal: to change their partner.

“Here’s what he’s like,” “And she’s like this and that”...

Do you really think a psychologist is going to change your husband or wife?

I assure you, if anyone changes anyone, it is most often some criminal elements

In other words, it’s illegal!

No one can change another person.

So simply save psychologists’ time and your own money.

Yes, there are psychologists who will play along with you and even listen attentively while you complain about “that bastard” and “that bitch”...

And that’s it. Why do you need this?

In the end, you will have to decide for yourselves whether you are ready to divorce because “that bastard never puts his socks away in the closet”...

I assure you—you will not. You will not get divorced over that. You may yell at your husband because of the socks, only worsening your relationship with him, or you may accept it.
Likewise, a husband may accept that his wife does not know how to bake pancakes.

She is the way she is, and he is the way he is.

And there is no need to go to a psychologist to force another person to do something.

It simply will not happen. And you especially should not say, “If you love me, then you will do this...”

That is a dead end, and these are two completely different concepts. If he loves you—well, thank God. What do the socks have to do with it?

The fact that he loves you is already valuable in itself. Perhaps that alone is why you will continue living with him and will not get divorced.

Moreover, never enter the realm that can be expressed as: “I do this, so you must do it too,” or “Look how modest and neat I am, so you must be that way too”... It does not work!
Moreover, you will feel that you are not living your own life; your life becomes a kind of proof for someone else. You begin doing things to show another person how they should behave. But they will not! You will only develop resentment. “Here I am, trying so hard, while he is not like that and makes no effort.” And that’s it—resentment is guaranteed.

If you have genuinely thought it over, calculated things, and determined that your comfort in the family is seriously suffering because of the other person’s actions, then of course it is worth considering divorce.

If you are literally working yourself to the bone for the family, investing everything in it, while the other side simply consumes—this is a serious reason to consider divorce. But if you can see that the person is also making an effort, just IN THEIR OWN WAY rather than yours, then divorce is foolish. You simply failed to do one important thing: come to an agreement. So it is time to sit down at the negotiating table.

What Is the “Family Alchemy” Package?

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